26 Apr 2018
5 Steps to Dealing with Heartache
There are many reasons why a relationship may come to an end, you might have decided early on that you are not right for each other, you may have been together for a long time and have grown apart, or something may have caused the split such as one-party cheating…
Equally the parting may be amicable, something you have agreed is the best way forward for both people, or it may be a tangled messy affair of emotions.
Whatever the circumstances, a certain period of healing is necessary. The death of a relationship is a grieving process of sorts, where you have to come to terms with the fact your future life is not going to look as you had planned and you are not going to grow old with the person you imagined.
It is likely that your emotions will swing from great sadness, to anger to positive feelings about the future, and some excitement and trepidation in equal measure as to what the new love landscape might look like for you.
These are some of the things that will support you, as you transition into the next phase:
Family
No one knows you like family, and loves you unconditionally. They will take your side, and support you and listen to you when you need to talk and vent about what has transpired. Don’t keep everything bottled up – lean on your family when you need them most, let them guide you and buoy your spirits.
Time
They say that ‘time heals all wounds’, but very often we are impatient to feel better, we want to step over the grieving process and just get on with life and not feel hurt, angry and upset all of the time. But part of moving on, is coming to terms with what has happened. Jumping into a new relationship too fast, or just gliding over things is likely to set you up for failure down the line, so whilst dwelling on the past and hashing things over time and time again is not helpful, allowing yourself some time to heal properly and gain some closure is a great idea.
Career
Your career can be a great saving factor during a breakup period, whilst you do need to do a certain amount of analysis on why things went wrong, sometimes it is great to distract yourself, and throw yourself into a new project or get re-energised at work. If you don’t work, then a similar result can be found in a hobby.
Declutter
Whether a relationship has been short or long, there are bound to be items that you have held onto – gifts, mementoes, pictures and so on. In order to move forward, you need to remove reminders of your relationship/past. If you find the thought of throwing away items to be difficult, then as a first step try boxing things up and putting into an attic or ask family/friends to hold onto them for a while until you feel stronger and more able to dispose of them properly. It is also a good idea to do an online cleanse, perhaps stop following your ex on social media etc, so you are not tempted to see what they are doing.
Speak to a Psychic
Going through a break-up can be emotionally draining, and at times you may struggle to see how you are supposed to move forward. At times like these it can be really useful to speak to an external person such as a psychic reader, who is a neutral party, where you can speak openly and without any judgement and gain clarity on your past relationship as well as find positive ways to move forward.
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